Slow and Steady: Good for Weight Training , Works for Relationships
Students dedicated to the weight training log approach the gym with specific intent and have learned how to use the equipment to reach their goals. People who start with similar entries in their personal training diary often end up with different results . The differences are often due to varying degrees of form and technique. Successful weight training depends on commitment and form. Relationships require the same to be successful.
When starting a liaison, the first step requires sharing similar goals . Just as someone who wants to lift for bulk approaches the gym differently then someone who is concerned with overall health, people often want different things in relationships. Is it long term commitment, a romantic fling or a buddy with benefits? Getting clear from the start resolves many potential problems. It doesn’t have to stay that way.
People come to relationships with variable skill sets. Some have already done a lot of lifting in other partnerships. Some expect others to do all the lifting. If two people have completely different histories, one partner may have to encourage and support the other as they get started on a more vigorous program. . Each brings strength and weakness to the relationship gym. Just look for the guy with the big guns and skinny legs and the woman with grapefruit calves and grapevine arms.
Any lifter knows the pounds don’t matter if the form is flawed. Slow and steady is the mantra. Pause between sets. A solid recommendation when dealing with issues that comes up between people. Discuss one conflict before moving on to others. Don’t put to much weight on the machine. poise in lifting offers the best reward. Graciousness in problem solving does the same. Are her clothes always on the floor? Burning them in the back yard gets them off the floor but won’t make life easier. Put a hamper in the room and offer encouragement and praise when the panties land in the right place. Like any good program , rewards for objectives met are a great motivation.
Relationships are dynamic. Like lifting, a committed relationship requires showing up on a regular basis , doing the work and enjoying the results. Changing things up can revive a routine and a workout. A lifter has to be honest about where his or her deficiencies are. That is often where more attention is given. Relationships require the same thing. Easily angered? results after the first set. Dedication , good form, time and the joy of effort well spent are qualities that benefit relationships.
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